You show up. You serve. You love your people, you love God, and you hold the whole thing together with both hands.
And still — in the car alone, in the middle of the night, in the quiet moments nobody else sees — there's this ache you can't quite name. This sense that you've been running hard toward a life that somehow still doesn't feel like yours.
FOR THE WOMAN WHO KEEPS IT
TOGETHER REALLY WELL
"I know that feeling. I have lived that feeling. I have sat on the floor in the dark knowing God loved me and having no idea why I still felt so lost."
This book is that conversation.
What I know now — after years of graduate study, clinical work, and my own hard-won healing — is that you are not broken. You are not failing at faith. You were just never told the truth about who you actually are.
Nobody handed you the operating manual for your own inner world. Nobody told you that the thoughts you've been rehearsing are physically rewiring your brain. That the meaning you've made of your hardest seasons has been quietly shaping your identity. That the comparison shrinking you has an explanation — and a way out.
Nobody told you that you carry within you the strength of every woman in Scripture. That your emotions are not your enemy. That the woman God designed you to be is not gone — she's just been waiting for someone to finally tell her the truth.Paragraph
Why your brain has been narrating your life without your permission — and how to change what it's building. Comparison, meaning-making, mental rehearsal, and curiosity as a way back to yourself.
What the Book Covers
A journey through every dimension
of your inner world
HOW We think
Your Mind on Autopilot
Understanding the feminine energy you were wired for. Discovering that you carry within you the strength of every woman in Scripture — the Queen, the Warrior, the Nurturer, the Beloved, the Transformer. And reclaiming every dimension of the woman God created — including the parts nobody talks about in church.
HOW We be
The Woman You Were Made to Be
Your emotions aren't problems to manage. They're information to read. Learn emotional literacy, why gratitude actually rewires your nervous system, and what real hope — not performed positivity — looks like.
HOW We FEEl
Emotions as Data
Self-love without complacency. Healing the younger version of you who is still carrying wounds she was never meant to keep. Releasing what was never yours — and learning to use every tool you've been given as the woman you were always created to be.
HOW We take action
Finally Moving Forward
What Women are saying
Before the book is even finished,
she already recognizes herself in it.
"Oh my gosh, I have chills. Had to respond ASAP but reading this slow one more time through."
EARLY READER
"Tears in my eyes, shoulders down and a deep breath of pure relief. It feels like comfort."
EARLY READER
"Holy hell. So good. It's relatable and what I and so many others need."
EARLY READER
"Wow wow wow wow. I'm on the edge of my seat. So good, Britt."
EARLY READER
about the author
I have been
this woman.
I know what it's like to sit on the floor in the dark, loving God and having no idea who I am. I've lived the infertility. The betrayal. The quiet seasons of performing okay when nothing felt okay at all.
I'm also a licensed counselor with a doctorate in counseling, a university professor, a coach, and a speaker who specializes in helping women create rapid, lasting change through the integration of psychology, faith, and practical tools.
I Wish Someone Had Told Me is the book that holds both. The one who has been her. And the one who knows how to help her heal.
